Work Etiquette

We need to keep in mind so many things at work.

1. You need to be willing to learn your business and application. This is not as easy as you think. To achieve this you need to burn midnight oil many times.
2. You need to befriend others in a professional friendship.
3. Must be open enough to learn the changes and adapt to them.
4. Be ready to help and be helped. There is nothing wrong with someone helping you when you don't know something. Always better to do things correctly than someone later correcting you.
5. Need to remain in the office at least 8 + 1 hour, however this depends on company policy and the way you work.
6. Never try to criticize you team mate. If he is unbearable do it with a positive twist. If your team is not good, your work will be affected. Always build up a good team. As you go, pick up your team mates also. Never leave anyone behind.
7. Try to be helpful and don't act, be genuine. You cannot fool everyone.
8. Do less browsing and be more productive at work. Browsing can be sometimes good to refresh your mind but I have seen people who are on the net 40% of their work hours.
9. Respect your work. Remember this puts food to your table, so be 100% to your job.
10. Work from home is a privilege and not a right. Use it only when it's the only way.
11. A big business such as banking or insurance, don't assume you know everything or your application is the only application that exists. These businesses are very large and you may know things as big as a drop in the sea of knowledge, so keep updating and adding knowledge to your mind library.
12. Don't underestimate anyone. Everyone is important; and no one is above you nor below you. Respect one another and don't overcrowd others space.
13. Some times your manager or team lead may be difficult but always know that most of them are their because of their better quality; and some are not! for people in such team God Help!
14. If your manager/Lead gives an advice, take it with a positive attitude and correct yourself. They wont tell you something out of the air. You must rest your mind and think and act immediately.
15. We are work to complete some task. Complete it to the best as you can or better than you can.
16. Never compare yourself with others. No one is equal. Learn to appreciate good in others and ignore the bad unless it hampers work.
17. At work, try making professional friends and not personal friends. But outside they can be your best friend.
18. Be neat and come dressed for work.
19. Try to not be a high maintenance, but this is also sometimes very difficult esp for women since we are frail comparatively and there is no shame in admitting this. But try not being too sensitive. Consider work as work.
20. Please don't IM(Ping/Chat) someone at work when their status is busy, if you need to, then make your point fast and conclude the chat. I face this many times and it's irritating.

At work be at work, and this is generally not a place for fun, so take it seriously--Irony--Have fun doing you work, else you will start hating it and everything that is associated with it.

Thank you for being there!

Three of my friends have, on face told me..Jessa you worry for unnecessary things. Stop worrying and enjoy life, but I do is worry. Everything around me affects me, good, bad and the ugly. Why does that bother me? Its not my life! someone else's, but some how it does. I didn't sleep the whole night for something that happened to a colleague of mine. I think the impact on her was less than it was on me.

Being over concerned about someone else is not good for your life. But there are people like me out there foolish to be affected by this disease. The best medicine for this kind of a sicknes is having friends like mine. If you can find friends like that which is very rare, accept them with your whole heart.
Warning: Having friends like that itself is exhausting though! You are going to get the truth bitter in your face. They won't sugarcoat facts and tell you. It will be very difficult to swallow and even more difficult to digest.
When they tell me the facts I get irritated but later I think about what they said and apply it. It gets me going then.

We are going to meet different situations in our life and others. Some of the situations can be terrible. But these situations are not going to pause time for you. Pick up yourself and get on with life. If you stop anywhere in life, you have to know that you will be behind your league and have to make up for the lost time.

Being a normal human, we will worry, we will be affected by things around us but they should impact you only to the degree it should, and not more than that.

Thank you for being there for me.
Hope you also find a friend like mine who can give you a hand during down times.

Love Jess.

Love VS Infatuation

Hey there,
How are you? Its been a while since I wrote to you. Needed your advice. What is the difference between Love and Infatuation? How wide is the margin between the two? Can love exist with out infatuation? I know the other way is possible.
I was going through the net regarding this topic and came across a load of articles but none of them made any sense.
I think how infatuation grows into love depends on the two people involved in it. Its like cooking; Everyone of us have ingredients needed to make a good meal but not all of us have the magic hand. Thats the same thing with Love. We all are naturally attracted to someone or the other but how we take it to the next level depends on the two of us.

Another thing is, why are we attracted to some and not the other? What's that all about? There are millions of people out there but our hearts drop at few but why not the other. What should be common between the two for our hearts to beat this fast? I am talking about the first sight.

Anyway, I don't know the answer to these questions. I don't know if ever will I find out too. But how much ever humans dig deep, there are lot more mysterious thing lurking around us that makes us know that God really created Adam and Eve and they are meant to be.
Jess.

Seasons in Life

How fast we change costumes in life?
I was married for 7 years 6 months and 7 days.
Characters that played the major role: Prestige, Money, Betrayal and Lies. Love, a guest appearance.
Everyone who saw the opening scene knew it was going to be an Oscar winner with twists and turns; Bomb shells and bullets. Never before imagined plots.
People around us feared having to put up refugee camps for us; most dear ones took the bail out on the first day itself,and built an electric fence around them. Everyone sympathized with us.
Many tried to bring us together in the name of God. They said,Marriage is made in heaven even when it meant hell. Live till one of you kill the other or learn to LOVE. Wish LOVE would bud from fear or it happened overnight. We tried not days but years but LOVE never came. Love cannot be forced. Its unconditional. It does not come with ego.
The interval. Separation. The dreaded word DIVORCE. The scene still needs a villain. "You will be Damned(sorry for the word) if you do this. You wont reach heaven if you do this. If you suffer this way its OK its the cross that Christ had to bear. Now he has given it to you". My dear, My Christ bore the cross for me so I don't need to carry them. Finally its done.
Before its was just the fence, now people are running like someone sprayed tear gas on them. lol.
There was someone so close to me in this journey. "Don't worry, I will be there, whatever happens, its OK. You should live you life". When reality hit, the tone changed. I have never in my life seen a Judas, but now I know how Lord felt when the last kiss. No ill feeling towards anyone.
Why am I writing this to you? So that you will always keep even the closest one at a distance. Not because they will turn on you but in case.
If 'I' gets destroyed, seasons will still change in all its beauty but 'I' will not be there to enjoy it.

Happy Birthday to Me

I am 33 this year. Born into this world on September 12th of 1976. He gave me a chance to be a part of HIM. I truly appreciate the gift of life that He has given me. I celebrate Birthdays, Valentines, Christmas,any events with a blast in my heart; You know why? Because every moment I get to live makes me realize how carefully He is taking me around. I am grateful to Him for everything. Sometimes when I feel I am drowning in the tempest of life, there comes a hand that doesn't just throw the life jacket to me but picks me out from the whirlwind and holds me close to Him that I can hear His Heart beat, sounding "I am here for you; why did you worry? I gave you life; I know how to take care of you."
I am thankful for each day, every second that I am here, on this Earth. How beautifully He has molded me to fit me rightly into His big picture.
I thank you for YOU, my life, my child, my faith, and my family.
Always yours
Jess.

Looks matter

I know you! you will see the heading and go wild. But its true. Looks matter. It does not mean perfection, it does not mean complete. It means, it meets your expectation. You still don't get it? See I love roses but you may like jasmines more. Why? Its what your mind considers beautiful than a rose. This does not mean you don't like roses.

This is the same with life. You must like your match. She/He may not be Aiswariya Bachan but she/he must be your Madonna.

Why am I writing this?! I had a conversation with a friend. Somehow we ended up on this topic. He said, "I don't care about looks. She must be pleasant. 90% of Indian women are pleasant." I disagreed with my friend. I told him,"Looks matter." My daughter was listening to this conversation and she said, " Mom alway says, Looks don't matter only Love matters." This blog is for her.

My love, for you age this is true. Don't choose your friends only based on looks. Don't distinguish anyone by their color, race or caste. Choose them because they are nice. Choose them because they need you and you need them. When I told then 'Looks do matter', it was meant for someone much older and I didn't mean it the way the words sounded. I am sorry.

You want to choose someone in your life you feel comfortable waking up to see everyday morning. He is your hero. He may look like a wild beast but still your handsome prince. Thats the look I was talking about. When you grow up and read this you will know.

Love Mom.

Application failure

Too many cooks spoil the broth. This is what is happening in todays industry. If you have good cooks its a different story. To get a good requirement, analyst, developer or tester is like searching for a needle in the haystack. I am sure you will agree with me.

This is from my experience. The amount of drama thats goes around on a small issue is not describable in some Organizations. Many times people don't even reason. Its tragic to see someone's money going wasted.

Work environment is purely professional. Someone is paying you. You must always learn to use your sound judgement there. You need to be calm to analyze the problem. Work with the team to get around the issue. First and foremost KNOW THE BUSINESS.

There is a testing phase in every good organization. This phase we must be able catch the functional issues as much as possible so that functional issues will not be the problem that would arise from production to you. In case you are getting produciton functional issues that means you failed in testing your application.

Its normal to find few issues in production always. But if your basic functionality is not working correctly in production that means you have failed in your testing.

That s where this commotion begins. Now starts - Finding the fault with the other, trying to keep your head safe. The chaos! I find it a pity.

The fundamental issue is difficulty to find the right person. If your Organization has the right people I am sure you are doing good.