Seasons in Life

How fast we change costumes in life?
I was married for 7 years 6 months and 7 days.
Characters that played the major role: Prestige, Money, Betrayal and Lies. Love, a guest appearance.
Everyone who saw the opening scene knew it was going to be an Oscar winner with twists and turns; Bomb shells and bullets. Never before imagined plots.
People around us feared having to put up refugee camps for us; most dear ones took the bail out on the first day itself,and built an electric fence around them. Everyone sympathized with us.
Many tried to bring us together in the name of God. They said,Marriage is made in heaven even when it meant hell. Live till one of you kill the other or learn to LOVE. Wish LOVE would bud from fear or it happened overnight. We tried not days but years but LOVE never came. Love cannot be forced. Its unconditional. It does not come with ego.
The interval. Separation. The dreaded word DIVORCE. The scene still needs a villain. "You will be Damned(sorry for the word) if you do this. You wont reach heaven if you do this. If you suffer this way its OK its the cross that Christ had to bear. Now he has given it to you". My dear, My Christ bore the cross for me so I don't need to carry them. Finally its done.
Before its was just the fence, now people are running like someone sprayed tear gas on them. lol.
There was someone so close to me in this journey. "Don't worry, I will be there, whatever happens, its OK. You should live you life". When reality hit, the tone changed. I have never in my life seen a Judas, but now I know how Lord felt when the last kiss. No ill feeling towards anyone.
Why am I writing this to you? So that you will always keep even the closest one at a distance. Not because they will turn on you but in case.
If 'I' gets destroyed, seasons will still change in all its beauty but 'I' will not be there to enjoy it.

Happy Birthday to Me

I am 33 this year. Born into this world on September 12th of 1976. He gave me a chance to be a part of HIM. I truly appreciate the gift of life that He has given me. I celebrate Birthdays, Valentines, Christmas,any events with a blast in my heart; You know why? Because every moment I get to live makes me realize how carefully He is taking me around. I am grateful to Him for everything. Sometimes when I feel I am drowning in the tempest of life, there comes a hand that doesn't just throw the life jacket to me but picks me out from the whirlwind and holds me close to Him that I can hear His Heart beat, sounding "I am here for you; why did you worry? I gave you life; I know how to take care of you."
I am thankful for each day, every second that I am here, on this Earth. How beautifully He has molded me to fit me rightly into His big picture.
I thank you for YOU, my life, my child, my faith, and my family.
Always yours
Jess.

Looks matter

I know you! you will see the heading and go wild. But its true. Looks matter. It does not mean perfection, it does not mean complete. It means, it meets your expectation. You still don't get it? See I love roses but you may like jasmines more. Why? Its what your mind considers beautiful than a rose. This does not mean you don't like roses.

This is the same with life. You must like your match. She/He may not be Aiswariya Bachan but she/he must be your Madonna.

Why am I writing this?! I had a conversation with a friend. Somehow we ended up on this topic. He said, "I don't care about looks. She must be pleasant. 90% of Indian women are pleasant." I disagreed with my friend. I told him,"Looks matter." My daughter was listening to this conversation and she said, " Mom alway says, Looks don't matter only Love matters." This blog is for her.

My love, for you age this is true. Don't choose your friends only based on looks. Don't distinguish anyone by their color, race or caste. Choose them because they are nice. Choose them because they need you and you need them. When I told then 'Looks do matter', it was meant for someone much older and I didn't mean it the way the words sounded. I am sorry.

You want to choose someone in your life you feel comfortable waking up to see everyday morning. He is your hero. He may look like a wild beast but still your handsome prince. Thats the look I was talking about. When you grow up and read this you will know.

Love Mom.

Application failure

Too many cooks spoil the broth. This is what is happening in todays industry. If you have good cooks its a different story. To get a good requirement, analyst, developer or tester is like searching for a needle in the haystack. I am sure you will agree with me.

This is from my experience. The amount of drama thats goes around on a small issue is not describable in some Organizations. Many times people don't even reason. Its tragic to see someone's money going wasted.

Work environment is purely professional. Someone is paying you. You must always learn to use your sound judgement there. You need to be calm to analyze the problem. Work with the team to get around the issue. First and foremost KNOW THE BUSINESS.

There is a testing phase in every good organization. This phase we must be able catch the functional issues as much as possible so that functional issues will not be the problem that would arise from production to you. In case you are getting produciton functional issues that means you failed in testing your application.

Its normal to find few issues in production always. But if your basic functionality is not working correctly in production that means you have failed in your testing.

That s where this commotion begins. Now starts - Finding the fault with the other, trying to keep your head safe. The chaos! I find it a pity.

The fundamental issue is difficulty to find the right person. If your Organization has the right people I am sure you are doing good.