Work Etiquette

We need to keep in mind so many things at work.

1. You need to be willing to learn your business and application. This is not as easy as you think. To achieve this you need to burn midnight oil many times.
2. You need to befriend others in a professional friendship.
3. Must be open enough to learn the changes and adapt to them.
4. Be ready to help and be helped. There is nothing wrong with someone helping you when you don't know something. Always better to do things correctly than someone later correcting you.
5. Need to remain in the office at least 8 + 1 hour, however this depends on company policy and the way you work.
6. Never try to criticize you team mate. If he is unbearable do it with a positive twist. If your team is not good, your work will be affected. Always build up a good team. As you go, pick up your team mates also. Never leave anyone behind.
7. Try to be helpful and don't act, be genuine. You cannot fool everyone.
8. Do less browsing and be more productive at work. Browsing can be sometimes good to refresh your mind but I have seen people who are on the net 40% of their work hours.
9. Respect your work. Remember this puts food to your table, so be 100% to your job.
10. Work from home is a privilege and not a right. Use it only when it's the only way.
11. A big business such as banking or insurance, don't assume you know everything or your application is the only application that exists. These businesses are very large and you may know things as big as a drop in the sea of knowledge, so keep updating and adding knowledge to your mind library.
12. Don't underestimate anyone. Everyone is important; and no one is above you nor below you. Respect one another and don't overcrowd others space.
13. Some times your manager or team lead may be difficult but always know that most of them are their because of their better quality; and some are not! for people in such team God Help!
14. If your manager/Lead gives an advice, take it with a positive attitude and correct yourself. They wont tell you something out of the air. You must rest your mind and think and act immediately.
15. We are work to complete some task. Complete it to the best as you can or better than you can.
16. Never compare yourself with others. No one is equal. Learn to appreciate good in others and ignore the bad unless it hampers work.
17. At work, try making professional friends and not personal friends. But outside they can be your best friend.
18. Be neat and come dressed for work.
19. Try to not be a high maintenance, but this is also sometimes very difficult esp for women since we are frail comparatively and there is no shame in admitting this. But try not being too sensitive. Consider work as work.
20. Please don't IM(Ping/Chat) someone at work when their status is busy, if you need to, then make your point fast and conclude the chat. I face this many times and it's irritating.

At work be at work, and this is generally not a place for fun, so take it seriously--Irony--Have fun doing you work, else you will start hating it and everything that is associated with it.

Thank you for being there!

Three of my friends have, on face told me..Jessa you worry for unnecessary things. Stop worrying and enjoy life, but I do is worry. Everything around me affects me, good, bad and the ugly. Why does that bother me? Its not my life! someone else's, but some how it does. I didn't sleep the whole night for something that happened to a colleague of mine. I think the impact on her was less than it was on me.

Being over concerned about someone else is not good for your life. But there are people like me out there foolish to be affected by this disease. The best medicine for this kind of a sicknes is having friends like mine. If you can find friends like that which is very rare, accept them with your whole heart.
Warning: Having friends like that itself is exhausting though! You are going to get the truth bitter in your face. They won't sugarcoat facts and tell you. It will be very difficult to swallow and even more difficult to digest.
When they tell me the facts I get irritated but later I think about what they said and apply it. It gets me going then.

We are going to meet different situations in our life and others. Some of the situations can be terrible. But these situations are not going to pause time for you. Pick up yourself and get on with life. If you stop anywhere in life, you have to know that you will be behind your league and have to make up for the lost time.

Being a normal human, we will worry, we will be affected by things around us but they should impact you only to the degree it should, and not more than that.

Thank you for being there for me.
Hope you also find a friend like mine who can give you a hand during down times.

Love Jess.

Love VS Infatuation

Hey there,
How are you? Its been a while since I wrote to you. Needed your advice. What is the difference between Love and Infatuation? How wide is the margin between the two? Can love exist with out infatuation? I know the other way is possible.
I was going through the net regarding this topic and came across a load of articles but none of them made any sense.
I think how infatuation grows into love depends on the two people involved in it. Its like cooking; Everyone of us have ingredients needed to make a good meal but not all of us have the magic hand. Thats the same thing with Love. We all are naturally attracted to someone or the other but how we take it to the next level depends on the two of us.

Another thing is, why are we attracted to some and not the other? What's that all about? There are millions of people out there but our hearts drop at few but why not the other. What should be common between the two for our hearts to beat this fast? I am talking about the first sight.

Anyway, I don't know the answer to these questions. I don't know if ever will I find out too. But how much ever humans dig deep, there are lot more mysterious thing lurking around us that makes us know that God really created Adam and Eve and they are meant to be.
Jess.